Say you're sorry....

Hi All!

I was reviewing my notes about blog ideas… subjects that I think/thought have relevance and value as we travel along this parenting pathway.

The topic that jumped out at me today, was “Say you’re Sorry”…

Throughout all of a child’s life, adults are directing, guiding, prodding, correcting, and a zillion other things..

I remember many days when our kids were young, where most of the day was spent keeping them safe, and guiding them to a different path… so they would see tomorrow!

I know I tried really hard to think about making good choices on my part, but there were definitely times when I was tired, or overwhelmed, or just plain stressed out, that my parenting choices were far from perfect! Well… probably never perfect, but far from excellent and even respectful.

We all know that time when for whatever reason, we lost it! I don’t mean just a small misdemeanor but a large transgression… where as soon as the words/actions occurred on your part… you felt awful… the regret and shame coursing through your veins!

I recall a number of times that happened… I couldn’t take it back, the action already occurred, the words were already said… SOOO then what?

Say you’re sorry… and mean it

We ask out kids to be accountable for their actions… we ask them to apologize when they’ve hurt someone, or made a bad choice, or just lost it with another sibling…friend.. etc.

We get the chance to be a powerful role model and example when we show them how to use the words “I’m sorry” as a tool of power and change… not just empty words. You have to say “I’m sorry” but more importantly, you have to DO I’m sorry.

I always believe that actions speak louder than words… so when you mess up, when you know you’ve wronged your child, tell them, and show them and use this time as a tool for modeling healthy behavior.

We don’t have to always be right… we don’t have to always be perfect, yet, we do have to always be mindful that our actions speak louder than any words we use.

When you mess up, say and do I’m sorry.

You’re kids will be better for it, and you will too!

What can be better than building a healthy relationship with your child?

Until next time,

Pam

We all have an emotional life...

Hi all!

I am sitting here reviewing my work and to do list. One of the items on it, was to add a new blog post… and right below that note… was “emotional lives of children”.

I started to think about that, because that is what I have decided is the premise for my work, and the stories I write. Stories that I hope will resonate with the emotional lives of children.

I have always believed that kids need to be seen as people in their own right… not just an appendage or item or number. We do great work when we take the time to see our children, and children in general as unique individuals.

I was thinking about that today as I placed a phone call to our 4 year old granddaughter. We have to speak with her without her older brother around, or he will co-op the phone! :)

I wanted to have a chance to speak with her without any involvement or interference from her brother, and allow her the chance to be heard on her own. To tell her how much I love her, and how wonderful she is!

Then… this past week, we had the great honor of helping our son and daughter-in-law move… what a blast to be part of that… and to be able to provide love and support for our adult children as well as our beautiful 3 year old granddaughter as they began this new phase of their lives. To have the chance to give extra hugs and celebrate new beginnings!

And then… I also had to take a moment or two or four… to take care of my own emotions as well… because it is hard to fathom sometimes that our youngest child is now 31!

I guess with all of this quasi rambling post what I am attempting to say, is that all of our emotional lives matter and the space we live in is better when that is recognized, nourished and respected.

Have a great weekend… take care of yourself, and all of those you love!

It matters!

Until next time,

Pam

What today holds?

Hi all!

I am sitting here thinking about all things book… and also how to enjoy my Saturday.

When I have something on my mind, I have to address it, or it is just a continued due-loop in my brain. I wonder if most people are like this? I tease with my husband that he can compartmentalize better than I can… I can’t usually separate…. my brain seems to find a way to connect everything!

Lately I am really thinking about how to connect with people who love books… who write Children’s Books, who love the idea of connecting children with great stories.

I am working with a great bunch of folks who are trying to help me learn.

Learning… its such a great thing! Even if I find myself not wanting to put in the time… cause I want to just relax, I find that until I do the learning… or the thing I am thinking about , it doesn't work anyways… SO I just do it… and then I can relax.

So what does your day hold today? What new things might you learn?

Each day… a new chance …

I have already learned about 3 new things today… that might be it… might be time now to go sit and read this great book I started yesterday.

Hope today is all you hope for!

Until next time,

Pam

Stages...

It seems to me, that when you have chosen, as I think a lot of people I know have, to build a quality relationship with your kids, that this stage of life is filled with different energy… different demands, but rich in time with grandkids, your adult kids… and your new goals.

Inspiration!

Hi all,

I wanted to share this post.... hope you enjoy!

The inspiration for my upcoming book, The Great Grace Escape came from watching my daughter-in-law one day as she sat in our living room in Brooklyn, super pregnant. Her belly was dancing and bopping and we joked that the baby inside must either be practicing her boxing skills and saying, “how do I get out??”. I thought, to myself: this little person must be pretty dynamic. She’s already making her personality known and she hasn’t even been born yet. I started thinking about what Grace might be thinking in there, what her personality would be like when she arrived… That’s how the idea of The Great Grace Escape was born! Pre-order your copy now for the holiday release! 
 

Until next time,

Pam

When your children teach you....

Hi All...

One of the most rewarding things about working on my new book is collaborating with my adult children. The idea for The Great Grace Escape (coming this holiday season) came from watching my daughter in law’s belly bop and wiggle as their daughter-to-be moved around in the womb. We joked that Grace must be practicing boxing and doing gymnastics in there, and my son Bill said, “Mom, it seems like this baby really wants to get out. That’s what your new book should be about!” Imagining Grace’s world in-utero, and collaborating with my daughter Anne to bring it to life in pictures has been a lot of work and a lot of fun. Sometimes it’s hard to believe that these creative, independent adults were once just waiting to be born like Grace! You can now pre-order The Great Grace Escape in time for the Holiday release!

Stay tuned... more stories to come :)

Until next time,

Pam