Hi all!
I wish everyone a great day today. Why not?
I have been contemplating what I am going to be doing in this next part of my life, and shared that with all of you.
I have recently been talking with someone I met through our daughter, Megan. He is a lovely, kind man, who’s journey has taken him into the profession of helping others. He lost his partner a number of years ago, and since then, has chosen to use his life to bring education and peace to others.
I was talking with him the other day, and I had been thinking about how I would use what I am going to be learning through the course I will be starting in just a few weeks.
We talked about Anne of course, as he knew her and understands my desire to help others in the conversations we have about Grief in this country.
I have said before, and restate my thoughts here, that to begin to understand how loss affects us, we need to be able to have shared conversation and open discussion. We need to have a new vocabulary and shared knowledge of what and how to do that.
Grief should not be a taboo subject, because all of us will experience Grief at some point in our lives. Some will be expected if a long illness proceeds a person’s passing, and some will not. It will come right out of the blue… one minute… and your whole universe is upended.
Either way, the loss is real.
I think we forget that … LOSS IS REAL.
I know at the beginning of my Grief journey, I would wake up, if I had been able to sleep, and wonder if my loss was only a bad dream, one that I would wake up from.
That is the part that I now understand is what makes Grief so damn hard. Your LOSS IS PERMANENT.
Love and Grief live side by side. If you dare to love … you dare to grieve.
In my journey I am learning and experiencing new things, and new ways of being.
I find that Anne is with me often.
I have always been a spiritual person, not a religious person, but a spiritual one.
Each and every one of us will decide how we believe, or choose not to believe.
I choose to believe that there is more to this universe than just the physical … that life is energy… and when the physical is gone, energy still lives.
I have always been open to thinking about life as multi dimensional … just because we can not physically see… does not mean it does not exist.
Like your thoughts… you can not see them, but you know they are there.
So I propose to all of you, that you open yourself to seeing… seeing in a new way.
My friend sent me a book called “Signs”. We were being quite open with each other about how we are and where we are in our Grief journeys.
I have shared with my close family and friends that I am so grateful to receive signs of Anne, and her life energy all around me.
I am choosing to share and speak, make myself vulnerable and put this out to the universe because I know I am not the only one who will experience this gift…
There is now a beautiful White Heron that comes to see us whenever we are at our home in Florida… and not just us … good friends were just staying at our home… Our Heron came to see them every day.
Signs are there for all of us, not just from our loved ones who have had to move on.. but from the universe and life itself.
I am choosing to be bold… look around you… open your hearts, souls and minds…
Peace will follow…
We are going to Florida tomorrow… and I smile knowing our Heron will be waiting.
Thanks for reading,
Pam